Heal Your Relationships
Maybe you’ve noticed that the warmth has drained out of your relationship, and you wonder if what’s broken can ever be repaired. You try harder, you talk longer, you compromise more, but the gap just widens. The problem? You’re both speaking the language of love the world taught you, when the relationship actually needs the language of Heaven.
In a sermon series titled: Tiled “Rip Up Your List,” Apostle Mike Signorelli, leader of V1 Church makes it clear that Jesus never defined love as a feeling. Feelings can get you to the wedding aisle, but they won’t carry you through the storms of life. True love, the kind that heals, endures, and transforms, is a supernatural standard, one only possible through the power of the Holy Spirit.
Love Is Not a Feeling
In 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 we read the Biblical definition of Love: Love as patient, kind, humble, selfless, forgiving, truthful, and enduring. Apostle Mike challenges Christians to insert our own name in place of love to see how we fare.
For example: “[Your name] is patient, [Your name] is kind…”
If you failed that test, you’re in good company, most of us do. That’s because this standard isn’t humanly possible. It’s divine. The only person who ever perfectly embodied it is Jesus Christ. Without His resurrection power at work in us, we will keep defaulting to the world’s definition of love: “If you love me, I’ll love you.” That, however, is pride; it’s conditional, that’s not the love of Jesus.
“That feeling got you to the wedding aisle, but that feeling will not get you past the wedding day. It’s got to be sacrificial. It’s got to be the Jesus,” Apostle Mike explained.
Where the Holy Spirit is rooted the roots of Christ’s love—patience, endurance, kindness, meekness, gentleness—grow.
In Matthew 14, Peter steps out of a storm-tossed boat to walk toward Jesus on the water. That boat wasn’t just wood and nails, it represented his family history, limitations, and expectations. Everyone in the boat was a fisherman, bound by the natural order of things. But Peter heard the call of a Rabbi who believed in his potential when no one else did.
To follow Jesus is to do what He does, not just learn what He teaches. That means stepping out of the boat of generational cycles—poverty, divorce, anger, pride—and onto the water of supernatural living.
Apostle Mike assured, “As long as you depend on the supernatural, you’ll never have to worry about anything in the natural.”
Three Elements of a Healing Relationship
Healthy relationships are healing relationships, and research confirms it—trust, honesty, and compassion are essential for reducing stress and improving quality of life. Jesus modeled all three with His disciples:
Trust: You feel emotionally safe.
Honesty: You can speak truth without fear of repercussions.
Compassion: Even in disagreement, kindness remains.
If these three things aren’t present in a marriage, in a church, in leadership, toxicity flows down, producing pride, deception, and anger in those under your influence. Proverbs 16:32 tells us patience can be a greater victory than conquest. You might be ready to walk away from your marriage, your ministry, or your calling. But what if patience is the sword that will win the battle?
Sometimes the greatest act of spiritual warfare is not storming the gates, but standing your ground in faith, believing for a breakthrough when your feelings scream to quit.
The Power Faith
Your words chart the course of your life. If you keep speaking death over your marriage, your children, or your future, you’re sowing seeds that will bear bitter fruit. Jesus Himself saw miracles blocked, not because of His lack of power, but because of people’s lack of faith.
If you don’t believe it’s possible, you’ll always be right. In Gethsemane, Jesus prayed, “Father, take this cup from me.” Then came the turning point: “Nevertheless, not my will, but Yours.”
Paul writes in 2 Corinthians 12:9, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Your weakness isn’t something to hide; it’s the place where God’s power shines brightest.
Like the Japanese art of kintsugi, where broken pottery is repaired with gold, your cracks are not a source of shame. They are the very places where God pours in His glory. The piece becomes more valuable than it was before it was broken.
“Instead of throwing it away, instead of hiding the cracks, let’s highlight the cracks with gold… The thing that was worthless now carries more worth than the bowl that was never broken,” Apostle Mike exclaimed.
Believers must stop defining love the way the world does. Step out of the boat. Choose trust, honesty, and compassion. Wield patience like a weapon, speak life, believe God for the impossible. And when you hit the breaking point, say “Nevertheless,” and let His grace flow into your cracks.
Love is not a feeling. It is a divine standard. And through the power of the Holy Spirit, you can live it out, healing relationships, mending hearts, and becoming a walking testimony of the love of Jesus.
About the Author
Jeannie Ortega Law is a chart-topping singer, evangelist, media personality and author from New York City. She can be reached on social media: @JeannieOrtega or emailed at Info@JeannieO.com
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