Narcissism: Killing the Idol of Self
In a world full of curated selfies, self-help mantras, and ego-driven platforms, it’s easy to assume narcissism is just the stuff of influencers and celebrities. But what if I told you…It’s not just out there in Hollywood it is in the church too. This isn’t just a cultural issue, it is a spiritual one as well.
In the series “Battle Ready,” Apostle Mike Signorelli doesn’t tiptoe around the truth, he exposes narcissism for what it is: a deadly, demonic deception designed to destroy relationships, silence empathy, and exalt self above God.
Narcissism is not just a personality flaw; it’s a spiritual stronghold. And if you’re going to be battle-ready, you’ve got to recognize it, reject it, and renounce it.
What Is Narcissism?
Psychology defines narcissism as excessive self-admiration, entitlement, and a lack of empathy. But the Bible takes it deeper. It is not just mental, it’s spiritual warfare.
2 Timothy 3:1–2 makes it clear by saying, “But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self...” Apostle Mike adds that “The love of self is the root of all other sin.” It’s what took Lucifer down. It’s what made Adam and Eve believe they could be like God, and it’s what’s fueling an epidemic in our generation today.
So you may be wondering what are some signs that narcissism is operating in your life or in someone close to you? The following is a list of five identifying qualities.
You Live in a Fantasy World Where You’re the Center
Narcissists craft entire narratives where they are always right, always the victim, always the hero. You’re not just in the story—you are the story, and everyone else is just a prop. “Your ego becomes a balloon—you inflate it with praise, but the minute someone pokes it with criticism, you explode,” Apostle Mike maintained.Even depression can mask narcissism. You draw attention to yourself by your wounds. Why? Because even pain becomes fuel for your ego.You Have a Deep Sense of Entitlement
Narcissists think: “I deserve it just because I want it.” Just like Ahab in 1 Kings 21. He was king—but it wasn’t enough. He wanted Naboth’s vineyard. And when he couldn’t get it, he sulked… until Jezebel stepped in. The enemy will always try to take something great and convince you to settle for good. That’s narcissism: entitlement that kills greatness and justifies stealing, manipulating, or stepping over anyone to get what you want.You Exploit People Without Guilt or Shame
Narcissists don’t see people—they see pawns. They lack empathy and use charm like a weapon. They’ll praise you when they need you and crush you when you correct them. They don’t feel your pain because they can’t even see your pain. If that’s you, repent. If that’s someone close to you, set boundaries. You are not a vessel to be drained—you are a person God made to be loved.You Manipulate and Control to Maintain Power
This is Jezebel’s signature move. She used Ahab’s authority to write letters in his name—wielding power that wasn’t hers. That’s what narcissism does: it hijacks influence and silences opposition. “Churches with a Jezebel spirit won’t challenge you—they’ll praise you into deception,” Apostle Mike warned. Some believers are still tied by umbilical cords of control—to a toxic leader, an old church, or a narcissistic parent. It’s time to cut the cord. Deliverance begins where truth and humility collide.You Are Unrepentant and Always Blame Others
“I gave her time to repent… but she refused,” Revelation 2:21 says about those operating in the Jezebel spirit. A narcissist will twist Scripture, weaponize love, and rewrite history all to avoid saying they were wrong. The cross doesn’t just offer us forgiveness—it offers us the courage to admit our sin. We cannot heal what we won’t confess, we cannot be free while pointing fingers.
What if You Are the Narcissist?
Apostle Mike confessed that he once operated in narcissism, until the Holy Spirit began to break him. The change didn’t come from therapy alone. It came from the cross. “What your arguments, your therapy, your social media posts couldn’t do—one drop of the blood of Jesus can do in a moment,” the V1 Church leader declared.
The truth is we’ve all had narcissistic moments but the difference between bondage and freedom is repentance.
If you want freedom, pray this now:
“God, search my heart. If there’s pride, root it out. If there’s control, I renounce it. If I’ve made myself the center, I step down and let You take the throne. I renounce the Jezebel spirit, the curse of Ahab, the curse of control, manipulation, and pride. Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me. In Jesus’ name, amen.”
There are three steps to healing. Repent – Not just for what you’ve done—but for the spirit behind it. Renounce – Cut every ungodly soul tie. Break agreement with the Jezebel spirit, the need for control, the prideful narrative. And lastly, Refocus – Jesus is the center. His cross is your power source. His Word is your mirror. And His Spirit is your helper.
Followers of Christ are the redeemed. True authority comes from surrender, and true greatness comes from serving. We should not just want to be free from narcissism; we should want to be filled with Jesus!
About the Author
Jeannie Ortega Law is a chart-topping singer, evangelist, media personality and author from New York City. She can be reached on social media: @JeannieOrtega or emailed at Info@JeannieO.com
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